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dc.contributor.authorIngamells, Kay
dc.contributor.authorIjsseldijk, Anita
dc.description.abstractFor my son this is and will be part of his life story. His mates will have had dads that take them to sports, give them advice, and tinker with cars, boats, or bikes. My son’s story is final. His dad died when he was 12 years old. Final. End of story. No lingering in the shed, finishing tightening that screw when dinner is ready. No hope of reunion. No secret savings under the mattress to join dad on a trip to Australia. No father with whom to share his eighteenth birthday. No father to be with him at his 21st, a birthday that is celebrated with family and friends in New Zealand. How best to assist him in his loneliness, his sadness, his fears, his withdrawals, his anger, his acceptance, and in his journey to becoming a man? With this in mind, we arrive in the office of his family doctor to meet another counselor. He has recommended that this woman will not waffle. That is what I am hoping for along with a wish that she will get us. She is on trial: will she be trustworthy enough that I can share my sadness with her? Will Connor respond? Will she help him? Will this process stir up more pain than he can bear or will these conversations give us the bridge that we need to pass beyond where we both now find ourselves?en_NZ
dc.publisherGuilford Publications, Inc.en_NZ
dc.rightsCopyright of Journal of Systemic Therapies is the property of Guilford Publications Inc. and its content may not be copied or emailed to multiple sites or posted to a listserv without the copyright holder's express written permission. However, users may print, download, or email articles for individual use.en_NZ
dc.subjectnarrative therapyen_NZ
dc.titleCloaked in Life and Death: Re-Surfacing From the Loss of a Father.en_NZ
dc.typeJournal Articleen_NZ
dc.rights.holderGuilford Publications, Inc.en_NZ
dc.identifier.doidoi: 10.1521/jsyt.2013.32.2.89en_NZ
dc.subject.marsden160702 Counselling, Welfare and Community Servicesen_NZ
dc.identifier.bibliographicCitationIngamells, K., and Ijsseldijk, A. (2013). Cloaked in Life and Death: Re-Surfacing From the Loss of a Father. Journal of Systemic Therapies. 32 (2) : 89-104.en_NZ
unitec.institutionUnitec Institute of Technologyen_NZ
unitec.publication.volume32 (2)en_NZ
unitec.publication.titleJournal of Systemic Therapiesen_NZ
dc.contributor.affiliationUnitec Institute of Technologyen_NZ
dc.contributor.affiliationIntegrated Medical Centre (Titirangi, Auckland, N.Z.)en_NZ
unitec.institution.studyareaSocial Practice

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